Saturday, May 23, 2009

The silnce is killing me
The loneliness is killing me


ya allah, please help me ;(

Friday, May 22, 2009

this song is one of the best i've heard so far..ehehe




Gita Gutawa

Kembang Perawan



Ketika surya menampakkan cahayanya

Ku gapai hari terangku

Menanti sebuah cerita

Yang pasti akan terjadi di diriku



Kini ku mulai mengerti artinya cinta

Walau senda tawa

Namun hatiku mulai merasa

Bila dekat lelaki aku pun malu…



Akulah kembang perawan

Ingin mulai merasa

Perasaan yang pasti

Milik semua insan



Aku mulai jatuh cinta

Papa biarlah aku

Menikmati semua anugerah

Di hidupku…

Sunday, May 17, 2009

4 Quick, Easy Ways to Say No to People Who Take You for Granted
By: Peter Murphy

No matter how wonderful you are sometimes other people will try to take advantage of your good nature. They will push you, get you to do more than your fair share and keep asking you to do even more.
And worst of all -- often your efforts will be taken for granted. Unless you can say No, the situation will not change in fact it may get even more difficult.
That is unless you can say No to these unreasonable people because very often to win respect from people you have to sometimes say No.
Here are 4 great ways to stand up for yourself and say No:

1. Soften the No
Instead of shouting No at the person and creating an uncomfortable encounter you can instead soften the No by postponing your help.
For example --
No, I am busy right now but I can help you in 40 minutes time
No, I have other things to do at the moment
Right now I do not have a free moment maybe later on
I would love to help but not at this minute, try John
What you are doing is softening the No by saying not now rather than an outright No. This is a lot easier to do especially when dealing with people who intimidate you.

2. Negotiate
To deal with people who want your help but are slow to help you -- negotiate! When they want something from you, you have the power - use it!
Say you are happy to help on one condition -- that they help you immediately when you seek their help. They will usually agree because they have to! If they say No, again as above, postpone helping them if you can.
There are some people who view the world in terms of what is in it for them and the concerns of others are of secondary importance. With these people you are wasting your time talking about your needs.
For that reason you have to link your needs to their gains by negotiating - tell them they will get what they want IF you get what you want.

3. Say No When You Do Not Care About the Outcome
When you are flexing this new found ability to say No for the first time use every opportunity to get some practice e.g.
In a restaurant, say no to the first table you are offered
at home say No to coffee when everyone else says Yes, have tea
In a store say yes to an offer of help but No to the product
What I mean is to say No when you are dealing with people whose approval is not that important to you. You will quickly learn through experience that it is not the end of the world if you say no and the other person is not pleased with you.

4. Say No to the Big Request and Yes to a Smaller One
Sometimes you are going to be asked to do more than your fair share. If you cannot avoid the job you may need to consider doing part of it.
A good way to handle these requests is to offer to do part of the job but not all of it. For example:
I will clean 2 rooms if you do the other 3 rooms
I can do 5 pages of the report as long as you give me the data
If you start the project I will finish it

By standing up for yourself on small points you will gradually assert yourself more often on the big issues. The main thing is to get started today on winning back control of your interactions with anyone who pushes you too far.

Friday, May 15, 2009

I miss your smile
Imiss your laughter
I miss your jokes
how u tried to imitate the kid in the tabloid

I miss YOU

sorry for all the mistakes i;ve done, i'm just imperfect. In fact, nobody is perfect in this world. everyone makes mistakes. and i;m sorry i couldnt visit you these days . All i could say for now is:

get well soon, Aiman , syafakillah

Labels: serious...

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

am back from a meeting and now...

MY HEAD HURTS :(

HAYYO

ALLAH P.H.M

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

salamz..

went to watch x-men origins:wolverine with adilah 2 days ago..(haha i know im funny, blooging abt what i did last two days..haha) anmd we pretty enjoyed the movie..i'd say that there were two pple that made my day ..and they were logan and gambit.ambit looks soo trendy and handsome!! and i have to admit more handomse that logan ehehe sorry to offent logan fangirls :)

and yea we did stay till the end of the credits..to watch the last scene of coz..and yea, our mins ans mins of waiting wre proven fruitful when the scene of logan drinking in a bar at japan showed up. but the thing is...i couldnt get what did the final scene told us on what will happen on the next x-men film? willthe next film be situated in Japan? hmmm.....and what ive learnt from the soompi forums was that the film released three diffren scenes..which appears at different showtimes..hmmm

after that went to swensens..had chicken and chips(?)there...eheh and we spends hours and hours eating and talking!! agaga

after that went to times bookshop :) and bough cecilia ahern books..its a two-in-one book, meaning that it has two stories combined into one thick book!! at only 19.80!! cheap!cheap! :)

and i saw some of Jodi Picoult's books..seemed like i woould prefer this author over cecilia ahern...cos the themes are more family-oriented and i prefer that to lovey-dovey themes..ehehe

thats all for now..:)

"God give us the will to make what seems impossible possible, so go for it mut!! :)"

Labels: there she goes again :)

Friday, May 1, 2009

watched 'Love and Honor" , and i should say that it is a ncie film, it has a simple plot but a meaning ful one. As the title suggests, its a stroy abput the love between a samurai and his wife. A love so pure that the husband was willing to avenge his wife's honor after knowing that she had been dishonored bya samurai to satisfy his lustful needs, even though during that time he had divorced and estranged her after he learnt about the news that she was seeing the high ranked samurai ... sweet :) it also shows how a man has managed to maintain his pride and honor as a husband and a samurai after being disgraced by society because of his blindness. Dunno what I’m talking abt? Read the summary below..eheheh


heres the summary (warning: contain spoilers!!)




Shinnojo, a low level samurai, lives with his pretty, dutiful and loyal wife Kayo. He has come to find his position in a castle as a food-taster for a feudal lord to be boring and pointless, and talks about opening a kendo school open to boys of all castes where he can teach the use of the sword. Before he can act on his dream he becomes ill with a fever after tasting some sashimi made from shell fish, but an investigation reveals that the poisoning was not due to a human conspiracy, but a poor choice of food out of season. After three days he awakes but finds that the toxin from the food has blinded him. Kayo is summoned by Shinnojo's family to explain how the couple will survive. His uncle laments that he no longer knows anybody with influence in the castle, and asks Kayo if she knows of anybody. She relates how Toya Shimada, the chief duty officer in the castle and a samurai of high rank, offered to help and they tell her to act upon his offer of assistance. A message from the castle brings the good news that Shinnojo's stipend of rice will remain the same, and for life but his aunt tells him that Kayo was seen with another man. He has Tohuhei, his faithful servant, follow her. Kayo notices that she is being followed, and although Tokuhei offers to cover for her, she reveals to Shinnojo that Shimada offered to help but with a price, shown when he forced himself upon her. He then solicited two additional trysts by threatening to tell Shinnojo about the first. An enraged Shinnojo divorces her and orders her out of his house. When it is revealed to him that Shimada had nothing to do with maintaining his stipend, but that it came out of gratitude from the lord of the clan himself, Shinnojo seeks to renew his skill with the sword as a blind man to avenge the dishonor of Kayo. Through Tokuhei he sends a message to Shimada to set up a duel, with the additional message to not underestimate him. The two samurai meet at the stables near the river to decide their destinies. Written by Brian Greenhalgh



worth watching :)